Reflective thoughts of 2008

For the past two days I have been wondering how I was going to start my blog, I been so excited I haven’t had time to figure out how I was going to start it. As I enter one of my final blogs for 2008. I must take the time out and say thank you Jesus. God is good. (All the time). I am so enjoying my new career and love my co-workers, it is so fun to sit back and have intelligent conversation. Today we went out to eat as a business lunch and I had a good time and enjoyed the warm response. We went out to Spring Creek BBQ on the company and now I am a stuffed bird. As I get more accainted with my new job responsibility, I contacted my glam squad that consists of Tonia and Tiffany and we hit the mall. Can I say how exciting; I haven’t been shopping like that in a long time. I have the official grown and sexy gear now, so picture me rolling. I got the nails and fly hair to match. It felt so good to finally be able to treat myself and also to have fun with my girls. Tonia and Tiffany I really don’t know what I will do without you all. You two really are some true blue friends, through thick and thin, we have prevailed and I pray that you both have a wonderful NEW YEAR and like my husband say NEW BEGINNING. I never knew growing up can be so much fun. I use to always wonder how my life would be and I can truly say I never imagine this. If it was up to me, I would have been still in the music industry and on a wrong path. I have worked for a major radio station, Bad Boy, Rap a lot and Def Jam, and life for me has been a blast. I have lived a dream that none of my recent peers can imagine. I have work with the who’s who and then some and in the same breathe; I was shown that, the life I dreamed was not for me. It is funny how God had it all planned for you. I have truly done a 360 and have a testimony that no one could believe. I lived the life before I was 21 and most of my peers are trying to live something I been there and done that on. The crazy thing I would not change a thing in my past because it has definetly prepared me for today. The fact that I am a private person some of you really don’t know me at all; you only know the transitional me. LOL and I love it that way. People these days are so judgmental and use you past to suppress you or use you and for me I don’t have time for that. All I can focus on is my husband and my family; my whole family. It has been a long time since I have been so happy; you can see my heart melt through my smile and I can not stop smiling. I have been so looking forward to Christmas; it has been insane; my tree really speaks for itself. It is on overload status.
As we go into the New Year with new experiences, drives and goals always remain prayer-filled. I just wanted to share how I loved going to my in-laws this past weekend to drop off gifts. I had a wonderful time and did not want to come back. My mother and father in law is the best in-laws I can ever ask for. My father keeps me cracking up and my mother in is sweet and warm as a fresh baked apple pie. We enjoyed our whole trip and didn’t want to come back , as a matter of fact we didn’t come back until Monday morning at 3am, now how you doing. All I can say is keep reading because you never know what future things the royal family have coming up. Also due to me just being unique the Royal Family will endure a title change for the New Year, coming soon.

Be Blessed,
The one and only Royal Family, King TD and Queen Dallas, Princess Kam and Prince Jay

P.S. Merry Christmas from the Royal Family

My mother in laws Christmas tree..
King TD and Proper Boy

The Head Royal Family; Mr and Mrs. G.D

Just Proof for the haters, my old Bad Boy work jacket.

Part 2 of the reflective thoughts coming soon.......

Getting ready for the New Year and New Things.

So the holidays are near and the Douglas ROYAL Family is getting ready for the holidays and New Year. What a wonderful year, we have so much to be thankful for and it couldn’t have been possible with Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Terick and I were able to make our Royal Wedding dream come true and it is so refreshing to see a Bigger Dream unfolding before us. I must say it has been a long and tough road and by any means I do not want anyone to read my blogs and feel like it is a fairytale. Life is not a fairly tale and love is not a Cinderella story. It take work, love and communication, it is all about neutering the relationship. PERIOD. I am so thankful for my best friend Terick and extremely Happy on our First Christmas that we are about to spend together. I personally have matured in so many ways and also have had several life changes (thank God for my CAREER not JOB). I have learned that everyone is not the friend you think they are and have made some major changes in the circle line up. I am at the point in my life that childish things need to be left at the playground and if you are not on that level, your talk time is now limited (50 feet needed). My husband and I have truly discussed no tolerance on negativity or un-necessary drama and headache. We have our eye on a bigger prize. Especially our BIG ROYAL DREAM, which we are on the works of. No details will be said so don’t ask but maybe these pictures can be a hint.

Until Next Time,
The one and only “ROYAL QUEEN DALLAS”

Lessons Learned in November 2008

This thing we call project marriage. I must say it has definitely been a true work in progress I must say. Trying to get it all right and making sure it continues to work and still able to manage friendships especially the single friends. There is nothing wrong with having single friends while you are married but sometimes friends give married friends advice from a single prospective that is really not conclusive to a married person. Not saying that this is given intention but the single friend and family member have no idea the impact the advice does in that person household. We discover that past arguments after we got married came from a lot of single friends and family members in our business. No matter where the leak come from and let truth be told from both sides of the family and friends circle, it was out and causing conflict. Especially from folks we thought we could confine in. We made a pact to keep whatever in house and work it out together cause seeking outside help was definitely causes problems; HUGE PROBLEMS. Can I say things have been lovely seen the pact was made. No more issues. It also made us re-evaluate what is important and it is us communicating with us, and not “All of them”. Some lessons are felt more learned and guess what I learned on this one. Just wanted to share a lesson learned; hopefully others can learn on this lesson and not the hard way like we did.

Learning everyday,

Queen Dallas

The Royal Tree

So it is that time again this year when the family plays a lot in play. It is holiday time. We are so excited in the royal palace. So here is how the day went last week, I have been speaking of a Christmas tree since last year and Terick was like okay this year we getting one. Well a long thought process went into if we wanted a real tree or a fake tree. After days of debate on what kind of tree we wanted cause either of us didn’t know. A decision was made; in other words the king issues his ruling. Since the world knows I love themes, the Christmas theme is red and gold color theme. So Terick and I were in the store and he was like come on baby, lets go in the Christmas section. I was like a kid in a candy store; my eyes were bright and gleaming. My first Christmas tree with my husband. He was excited as I, as were browsing the selection and he trying to get me to down grade on the baller tree I had my eyes set on. I wanted this huge tree like we live in a house; a nice Douglas tree. As far as I can see it is the perfect tree for the perfect royal family. Terick and I decided on his cousin tree until we get a house. I was cool with that, just more motivation in my eyes. So the exciting part begin, picking out the decorations; as I am virtually drooling at the red and gold ornaments, I decided on a little of this and that; then Terick remind me of the $$$$$$, I begin to rest my nerves. As a proud kid walking out of the candy store, my husband remembers that I love candy canes on the tree and remind me to grab two boxes. Can I say my heart melt, he can be such a sweet heart. We made it home and instantly King Douglas began putting together the royal tree of 2008 and as the Queen; I finished it off. I am happy that we are so into the Christmas spirit and I truly have a lot to be thankful for this year. Words can not even explain my thankfulness.

Until next time,
The Royal Queen Dallas

Outside and Enjoying Freedom

Well, I have been so overjoyed; I haven’t had a moment to sit down and blog about my happiness, correction our happiness. God has blessed my family so much right now it is over flowing. Terick and I have been in such high spirits I haven’t stopped smiling to tell a soul. I can truly say everything is coming complete; I have a new career and professional freedom. Yes LORD, I am able to say it professional freedom. I know everyone is not able to say this and Lord I am happy I am able to claim it today. As of November 14, 2008 I was able to leave work stress at the door and walk out and strive for better. I been so relax it has been a huge help on our marriage and it feels like a huge weight has been lifted. In my mind I am thinking I should have quit that other place along time ago, but god does what he does in his timing. I want to thank Mert, Tanishia, Tonia, Tiffany and Shika for celebrating a new beginning for me. All I can say is it is only going to get better. It has been a long time since I can say I am happy to go to work and people at work are happy to see me. I am thrilled to wake up and come and look fly... My grandfather says he hears a huge difference in me and he is proud; that is all I needed to hear and for my husband to be as loving as he is, it all makes my hearts melt.

Until next time,
One Love
Queen Dallas of the Douglas Royal Family....

The Dream has become Reality

"And when this happens, when we allow freedom ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands " ~Martin Luther King, Jr.~

Can I say the AUDACITY of HOPE. I have never thought in my natural lifetime that I would witness HISTORY in its finest hour. As many know, I am an advocate newsreader and very much on civil activisms and history. I must say today, I been praising GOD all day. Last night, as I lay in my husband arms and stare in shock at TV. I witness the First African American to become President. I laid there in shocked as my husband screamed at the TV and my eyes filled with tears and I thought, LOOK at what a Dream can do. I kept repeating thank you JESUS. All I could think of is hearing my grandparents talk about how much they fought for the right to vote; how active they were in civil rights marches. Lord I wish my grandmother lived long enough to see what a dream can do. To see what she cried for and fought for in 1965. Forty-three years later, her dream became a reality. My grand father called me crying and stated he is happy to have lived long enough to see this faith and determination, come alive. My grandfather is in his 80’s and he waited yesterday in line with his cane to vote. Can we say more?
I am so happy that Terick and I can show our children, you can be President if you want and HERE is the Proof. No more myths and dreams.
Today I am humble and rejoiceful and as I told a co-worker, you don’t have to like Obama but you have to respect what he have accomplished in History. He did it fair and square and there is nothing you can say about that! I am shocked at some of the people response. How can you frown; really. Either way thank god that GW term has ended and some one can get in and try to clean this mess up.
I must say thank you Jesus again, my spirit is lifted and I pray that everyone was inspired like I was to NEVER SETTLE and when Opportunity doesn’t knock for you; you make DOOR open.

I tilt my hat off to you, Obama, may God bless you and your Family…… never stop hoping and dreaming…..

God Bless,

The Douglas Family (The Royal Family)

It aint all roses...

This Project we call marriage… I must say…..it is work, work, work and more work. It has been over 2 months and already since we have been married and I can official say the “Honeymoon is OVER”. Yeah I know you can say that is too soon but it is. It is now full time work mode, excuse me wife mode. I must say…… So keep us in your prayers as we journey down this path and pray for the better understanding and communication for us both. I know you were expecting all gushy blog but not every time I write you will get that. Much blessing to you all and the sky is the limit.

P.S. Black, I have not forgotten about your Superstar Blog.
Love,
Dallas

One Month Anniversary

Today, one month ago; I married my friend. The one I laugh with, play with and enjoy all my time. I must say I have been on true cloud nine and in wedding bliss. I am so happy that all my dreams came true and I was able to marry my friend. Things have been great and truly a blessing. I am still getting use to my new last name and people calling me by my new name. Other than that, I have no complaints. I just need to get out of the clouds, get back on Project GTFO, and terminate my employment services with GMAC and everything will be LOVELY.

Until the next time,
Mrs. Dallas

P.S Happy Birthday Cupcake.

Relaxing

So call me selfish… I have not blog and really, because Megan keeps asking for one so I decided to post a brief one. I’ds married and enjoying my honeymoon. I am so laid back right now and enjoying my husband company. I am happy to feel relax and excited we are married and the wedding is finally over. So how was the wedding? It was nice and I really enjoyed myself. The best part I was able to exhale and breathe it is over and we done it and I married my best friend. Therefore, what are the plans for right now? Simple. Enjoy time with my new husband and live on cloud 9. The most heard question. I keep hearing is: pictures where are they. Simple I have the proofs (been had them) and made a choice on not sharing them so publicly on the internet. I feel like it was a real intimate moment with my husband and need to be share with my family and friends only and not the whole cyper space. I will post only a few just as I did my engagement pictures and will share the albums in person or on a personal email exchange. The second most heard question; " When are you all going to have a baby?" Answer: When we are ready and God says it is time. Right now we are fine with Pooh Bear; that recently turned a terrible 2. Third question, " What have you been up too?" Enjoying each other and quiet time. We have already spring clean the house, I have spring clean some un-needed associations, and about to re start my career search. We all know from 7am to 5pm I am purely MISERABLE. My job sucks completely and is truly beyond repair of me trying to stay. I have been actively searching and praying a new career comes my way so I can be completely stress free.

Until next time,
Dallas

Time is ticking!

Well I do not have too long, just 16 days left to the royal ball. I cannot wait. I am sure, when the day comes, I will be fussing….. saying that it is going by too fast. I am so humble and ready for the experience. Even though when you get advice from others they seem to act like marriage is a plague to avoid and the worst thing in life. I wish at times people could just be happy and not let there sour experiences damper someone’s joy. There is nothing wrong with being concern but there is also nothing wrong with love. Just because you burnt your hand on the stove a couple of times, does not mean you will always do it. You have to have faith, and patience. It will not always be cloud 9 but whenever anything is. I am so happy we are friends and truly enjoy each other’s company. Now I am not going to act like everyday is roses but it is surely close. Take time to have fun and enjoy life. Remember prayer answers all…… Life is too short for misery. I am surely praying because I need direction in a career not a job a career. I am searching for my passion and I feel as long as I believe, I will receive. :O)

Until next time……Dallas

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
I CORINTHIANS 13:4-7 NIV

Lord,
Because love is patient....Help me to be slow to judge, but quick to listen. Hesitant to criticize, but eager to encourage, remembering your endless patience with me.
Because love is kind.... Help my words to be gentle and my actions to be thoughtful. Remind me to smile and to say "Please" and "Thank You" because those little things still mean so much. Because love does not envy or boast, and it is not proud.... Help me have a heart that is humble and sees the good in others. May I celebrate and appreciate all that I have and all that I am, as well as doing the same for those around me.
Because love is not rude or self-seeking....Help me to speak words that are easy on the ear and on the heart. When I'm tempted to get wrapped up in my own little world, remind me there's a great big world out there full of needs and hurts.
Because love is not easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs.... Help me to forgive others as you have forgiven me. When I want to hold onto a grudge, gently help me release it so I can reach out with a hand of love instead.
Because love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth....Help me stand up for what is right and good. May I defend the defenseless, and help the helpless. Show me how I can make a difference.
Because love always protects and always trusts....Help me to be a refuge for those around me. When the world outside is harsh and cold, may my heart be a place of acceptance and warmth. Finally, because love always perseveres.... Help my heart continually beat with love for You and others. Thank you for this day when we celebrate love, and for showing us what that word really means. Amen

The Reflections of a Birthday Girl

It was the first time in all that I could remember, that I did not celebrate my birthday all Vixen style. Now those that know me, know how Vixen style it can get. I mean I go all out. Well this year, I just relaxed and did what I wanted to do and guess what that was……. nothing. With the wedding coming up it is so hard for me to get a moment of “me time”. I am not complaining. I see it as a blessing. Terick and I went into this wedding not knowing how we were going to pull it off and God has done it all. What more can I say?
I think the cutest thing on my birthday is Terick walking up and asking me, “How does it feel to be Mrs. TD in a few weeks.” All I could do is smile.
In addition, my brother calling with Jaylin on the line and stated Jaylin need to tell me something and next thing I know…….Jaylin hollering in the background and Joe goes, he is singing Happy Birthday :O)

Until I blogg again ……….Dallas

My Friend

Can I say... because "He is my Friend"

You know I went to my friend, "Q." wedding on Saturday and all I could think about is I cannot wait until it is my day. The groom shed a tear as soon as he seen the bride. (* I thought that was too sweet*). Terick tells me everyday he is not shedding tears, so I will not see that on my day.

I been thinking all week, since Shanita pointed out, I have 2 weeks until show time. Thank God, Terick and I are friends. It has been a long 8 years. We have been through a lot to the point I was like Camellia it is over. She swore up and down no it is not. I must say Camellia; you made a liar out of me. When I first met Terick, we were friends for a few months. It was not boyfriend and girlfriend at once; I was not trying to hear that. I was attending Southern, should I say more. (*insert huge smile*) Next thing I know, I started sharing everything with Terick, he confides in me, and we became great friends. Till this day I tell him a lot because he is my friend. We play all day around the house, joke all day. That is my friend. I cannot imagine another person to play drunken UNO with.

Until next time Dallas

My Bridal Shower on 7-12-08

Hello Everyone and welcome to my blog spot.....

I decided to blog my last 30 days as Miss Dallas and enlighten all my family and friends on my joyful experience. I am so excited that I am at the point till I can not wait till it is all over with and we are husband and wife. I am so thrilled on what our future have to hold. But enough of that.... Lets get to the bridal shower that I had last week. Can I say I had a lovely time and it was pretty. I must say I have the best bridal party EVER minus one.... (Natasha Rutlegde, I miss ya). So here is how my day went. I woke up sad cause my best friend Kerrick past the morning before and no one told me... any who a different story. I was running around most of the day trying to get ready and force myself to look presentable. Since I am very much on time to important events I get a call from Tonia and she advised me to be late to my party...LOL

When I got to Tiffany house it was to pretty and the decorating were so nice and look at my party favors.... I had my own water. Now ain't that a Queen honey. I show all my friends but guess who missing....... my mom. Fashionable late as ever trying to make a GRAND ENTRANCE of being well over an hour late. (*frown*) So when the now formal queen made it the party got started and i had a ball I must say. Here are a few pictures of my magical day.

The food was so good and the cake was nice. If you missed it you missed out on a whole lot of fun and love. I want to thank my bridal party especially Kristen Singleton my matron of honor. Since I met you in college you have been such a wonderful and non judgement mental friend. You accepted me for who I was and who I was trying to become. A better and god fearing person. You understand it not an overnight process but man I have come a LONG way. You are a complete friend and more than I could ever ask for and thank for my bridal shower at Tiffany new house ( that I must say is so lovely). Tonia I cant want to see what my last night as a single princess will look like, cause if it is anything like I threw for you. I am in for a treat. You will always be my BIG COUSIN, all the HATERS can hate on it. (*insert a HUGE SMILE*) thanks for teaching me how to live the life of a grown woman. Tiffany what can I say. We been threw so much together and I have known you for a long time. You are such a SWEET person and in your best words, "NOT UGLY!". I know you will always be my true friend and I love you. I want to thank all my friends and family for coming.

Until I blog again have a blessed day...... Love, Dallas